Do you know what is the most important skill in a relationship?

The answer to this questions is - the ability to communicate well.

I want to introduce you to a book with the title of “11 Ways to Please Your Woman.” The book is written with the intention of helping men of all walks of life to improve the way they communicate with the other gender. It is also intended to help men read and understand a woman’s actions and words more accurately.

Research shows that impaired communication is a major reason why many relationships suffer or do not work.

So, what is impaired communication?

It is when you speak with the intent of conveying one meaning, but the person you speak to hears something completely different from what you originally intended.

How is this possible? In Europe, as a child, I often played a game with my friends called “A Broken Telephone”. We all sat in a row. The first person in the row thought of a sentence and whispered it in the ear of the player sitting next to him/her. The sentence was passed down the row until it reached the last player. That person would announce aloud what he/she had heard after the sentence was transferred through the ears and the mouths of the group. The game was hilariously funny, since the sentence was never equal to the one initially generated, and often was so distorted that it made us laugh for a long time. So, what went wrong? Why didn’t hearing and repeating the same sentence result in a perfect transmission? It happens because we have psychological filters. We often hear what we want to hear, and we often say the things we want to say in a way that is specific and unique to us. I may say that when speaking, even if merely repeating something that was said to us, we interject our energy and our way of expression - a piece of us - into the sentence. Therefore, the sentence one hears and then repeats is never the same. It is always something more. It has an addition, a mark, a signature of our individuality all over it.

I am sure you have experienced times when somebody “selectively” heard you.

For example, you were not heard when you asked for money, but when you invited the same person to a dinner even a whisper was enough to be heard and understood. Therefore, our emotions and our past life traumas may alter the way we hear and interpret what we hear. If the person speaking to us is not aware of the filters we carry, he/she may think you both are on the same page. That person would never be aware that you “heard” or more correctly “perceived” the sentence in a way that was different from the meaning that was originally intended. Needless to say, many people might feel hurt from the resulting miscommunication. Sadly, many would have no understanding of how to correct or address that hurt.

In my experience in life, good communication is the very foundation of a good relationship.

It is a skill with which very few are gifted. Most people need to learn it.

The biggest pit that many fall into is the belief that one has good communication skills just because one is smart, or educated, or fluent in a particular language. Expressing yourself in a way that allows the other person to hear exactly what you intended to say, bypassing the other people’s filters, is a very fine and difficult art. I would compare it to the skill of playing the piano or a violin well. You first need to understand the knowledge behind it and then you need to practice, practice and practice while learning from your mistakes.

In order to be a good communicator, one needs to understand the self and the other person well.

“11 Ways to Please Your Woman” focuses on the communication between a man and a woman from the first time they see each other to the later stages in a relationship. It goes through the steps we call dating but it is much more than that, because the skill of good communication is the basis of any healthy relationship - brand new or old.

So, my fellow reader, if you are a man I hope this book helps you to reduce the amount of mistakes you may make when communicating with a woman. If you are a woman, I hope giving this book to your man may reduce the times you cross swords in the battle of words, because your man may be able to understand you better.

It is my desire that this book helps you be in a state of better balance and inner peace, a state we often call happiness.

Please send me a message if you would like to be alerted when “11 Ways to please your woman” is released.

From my heart to yours,

Dr. Ani

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